Surfer's Up!

No pun intended, but things went pretty well with the surfer the other night. We met for sushi, and get this...we didn't have any alcohol until half way into the dinner, and you know what? I was able to have conversation, try rolls that wouldn't normally order and pull some wit from my ass. I think that this may be a first for me. I for once didn't have to self medicate myself with booze in order to get through the date. Wanna know the cutest part of the sushi date? He got there soooo early because they don't take reservations and wanted to make sure we had a place to sit around the sushi bar...awwwwwww. big points there. After dinner we went to a pool hall, where we had some margaritas and I proceeded to delight him with my quick wit. We just couldn't end the night there, so we went to a "dive" bar and threw back a couple beers. At the end of the night we had that "goodnight kiss" moment. We were in the car and it came that time, so he told me he would walk me to my car (which was right next to his and all I had to do was open his door, take one step and open mine) So we got to my car where I went in for a hug, which turned into a "peck" which was so awkward that I immediately opened my car door, which made my hair get stuck and I couldn't even look his way!! ahhhh the awkward first kiss, I dieeee!!

All in all I had a great time and we have since been texting...will there be a third date?

I hope so.

xoxo, the 20 something

Second Date=Second Base?

Tonight is my first "second date" with the same guy from match. The other night I opted for the long haired man surprise, surprise! We enjoyed two great beers and some conversation. I think it went pretty well, because he has texted me since the original date and we have talked today about plans for sushi tonight. Now he told me he doesn't like to go to a place that he doesn't feel comfortable wearing his sandals...hmmm so I wonder what kind of sushi joint he will take me to. I think that I may have oversold my self as the outdoorsy loving kinda girl. I do like to be outside--during the summer getting a tan on the beach. And I do like to go snowboarding and I once upon a time really wanted to learn how to surf, so I guess I could picture myself getting into those things again. I mean it may be a good way to start exercising! ha ha.

The other night, unlike my other dates, we didn't seal the night with a kiss. Which was totally cool, because it didn't seem right at the moment... so I'm a little anxious to see what the night brings.Second date=second base? HA HA I kid.


xoxo the 20 something

32 winks, 17 emails and 1 DATE!

I am a veteran of match.com but recently re-joined to participate in our 20*30*40 dating blog. Well, sad to say my popularity rating has not improved! Many winks from men as far as India... I exchanged emails with 2 different men this week but after 3 or 4 emails they just stop... Was it something I typed? Had one date, did not really feel a spark but would go out again if he called. However, I doubt he will. Not sure if match.com is the best avenue for 40-something to pursue love.

xoxo 40something

Get it, Girl.

Yikes. I'm a bit overwhelmed right now. I am currently carrying on text conversations with 4 different men. 3 found online, 1 found offline (which is another blog in itself) I have to say that I am feeling a bit guilty carrying on the conversations with the guys that I am for lack of better words, "leaving on the back burner." How do I tell someone that I'm just not that into you?

Tonight I have a date with someone that I believe I am more interested in and have more in common with. It seems as though my first couple dates were practice runs. Don't get me wrong each date was enjoyable and the conversation was there, there was just something that was missing.

Hopefully I can put my practice dates to good use tonight, and hopefully my other "men" won't contact me during my date. No one likes a girl that is constantly checking her blackberry!

xoxo, the 20 something

Double Booked.

Uh oh I have officially booked two guys for the same night! I don't want to have to recreate the scene from SATC when Charlotte double books. She goes out with both of them and tells the first date that she is sick, only to go back to her place with date number two to find date number one waiting with soup. eeeeek

So help me decide please. One is 35 lives nearby and is somewhat attractive. The other is 25 has long hair and is attractive. Did I mention that he has long hair? Yeah, if you know me then you know which guy I am going to have to gracefully turn down, but obviously keep him on the back burner.

This is getting tricky--I've been on three dates this week and the past two are still contacting me and wanting to go out again. Maybe I should limit myself to one date per week??

Screw it!! I only have a one month membership and need to make the most of this experience!

xoxo, the 20 something

Playing the Field

It has come to my attention that women receive far more emails and winks online than the men do. You wanna know how I know this little tid-bit of information, well every guy that I have gone out with tells me. They tell me that they get about one email a week and haven't met that "special" someone yet. I on the other hand get emails and winks daily, and am talking/dating a few different guys. When they ask me if I'm seeing another person or when the last time I went on a date, I typically lie. I'm testing the waters with a few different people, and don't really know how to properly turn anyone down. I haven't been blown away by any of the guys I've seen and have kind of come to the conclusion that they are dating online because they are somewhat dorky. I don't wanna toot my own horn over here, but I am just soooo different from many of the people that I've met up with. Don't get me wrong they have all been perfect gentlemen, but I just haven't felt the connection with anyone, which is the reason why I need to play the field. So I guess until the "one" comes along I'm going to continue to play the field, I just have to make sure I get my story right and don't call them the wrong name!!

xoxo, the 20 something

what's the deal with the coffee date?

So I have been getting a lot of requests to go on coffee dates. Yes, Coffee. I know I'm new to this whole online dating thing, but when I go on a date I typically like to get my buzz from an alcoholic beverage, not a latte. Has the economy affected the dating scene, can guys no longer take you out to dinner or drinks? I don't want to sound like an alcoholic over here, but I do find that I perform better (ie I become very witty, personable and FUN) when sipping an alcoholic concoction. I mean I went on a coffee date and it lasted about as long as it took me to finish my tall chai latte. Are these supposed to be little introductory meetings, I mean for god sake I feel like I'm on an interview! And what are you supposed to wear? Who is supposed to pay? I DON'T GET IT. So I'm about to head off on another coffee date at 5. I mean 5 that's so close to dinner and we're not meeting at a Starbucks or coffee shop. We're going to a place that I know has alcohol and serves food. And I wouldn't typically go to this place to grab a coffee per say. So do I have to order coffee? Maybe I'll see what he thinks about an Irish coffee...


xoxo, the confused 20 something